MEMORANDUM
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To:
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46-year old Katlin
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36-year-old Katlin
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Professor
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December 4, 2019
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Nonverbal Communication
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As my
first semester at (University) winds down, I find myself reflecting on the many concepts
covered in my Nonverbal Communications class as they apply to my marriage. It is my expectation that, in a decade, (Husband) and I will still be married. I know that
nothing happens in a vacuum, though, so I want to remind you of key concepts
that will strengthen your marriage.
I want to first mention how our bodies move through
space. It is important to be aware of
posture, eye behavior, and facial expressions when having a serious discussion
with (Husband). As you have already seen, how
you hold your body has a definite impact on the conversation. Arms folded across your chest can signal
aggression, though it can also mean that you are hurting. Uncrossing your arms and relaxing your stance
goes a long way to alleviate tension in the room. Defensive postures can inhibit effective
communication and add tension to the discussion. Wildly gesticulating during a tense
conversation can also be inappropriate.
You don’t want to look nervous or defensive when you’re trying to talk
to him, so keeping an eye on your emotional displays as they relate to the
moment can only improve the conversation.
Touch is another very important aspect to
remember. You know that (Husband)’s love
language is physical touch. Don’t be stingy with hugs and kisses, as affection
will have a positive effect on his emotional well-being. In a marriage, touch is essential to the
maintaining the intimate relationship. It
is important to clasp his hand when he reaches for you and to initiate. Holding hands in public identifies that you
are together and speaks his love language. In private, initiate touch and
linger. Touch tells him nonverbally that
you love him, whether that be through a quick back massage, holding his hand,
kisses, or even just hugs. You don’t
want him to become starved for touch as that could lead to marital problems. If
he seeks “touch for hire,” it is possible that he will start to become
resentful.
As you reflect on this class from 10 years in the
future, I hope that you will remember these keys to marital success through
nonverbal communication. Self-awareness
is a challenge but an important one as you move through the world. Who you are
and what you stand for is largely communicated nonverbally. It is important to
be mindful of these concepts when relating to your spouse because they can make
the difference between a happy marriage and a strained one. You want to be
purposeful as you emote. Keeping this memo in mind will change your
interactions for the better. I guarantee
it!
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Grade: 30/30
Professor Comments:Best wishes for a long and loving life with (Husband).
